He lives with OW and her kids (according to D11 he can't stand them).
He was giving me a mere pittance every 2 weeks that I couldn't survive on so I took him to court and got more. That was sept 30th and I never received a penny until January 16th, that was a hard 3 1\2 months. We got groceries from food banks, mostly from friends. H's BF of almost 40 years was filing my gas tank and giving me money for extras, I couldn't even buy my kids a gift for Christmas so H's BF gave me money to buy them 2 each.
H didn't even buy the boys a thing for Christmas, and to rub salt In the wound a little more he spent Christmas with OW's family right next door!
There is so much more that he has said and done but I'd be here all day typing and he's simply not worth my time.
The bottom line is I'm so grateful for my kids, I have their complete respect sadly he does not but that's his doing, not mine!
When you're going through dark times in your life you quickly learn who really cares and loves you and the ones who walk away, well they can keep stepping.
Emotionally I feel better than in a long time. I'm not where I want to be but I'm getting there and so are my beautiful kids :-)
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
I am so sorry that your H is right next door...ugh!!! Thank goodness for your H's BF!!! And, you are right about finding out who really cares!!!!
You sound good despite everything that's happened!!! (((Hugs))) CW
BD-Aug 2009 OW Confirmed H moves out Dec 2009 D filed by H-Mar 2010 H asks to come home April 2011 BD AGAIN 1-15-2014! H seeing FOW! H ran away again! 1-18-2014
Thanks courageous, I really do feel a lot more peaceful than I have in a long time.
I cannot control anything this man does so I don't contact him unless I absolutely have to. Truth is that the OW is extremely threatened by me and the kids and she won't let him contact me or them haha
I would never wish any harm to come to him and I do still love the man I married, however too much has been done to me and the kids for me to ever take him back. I'm just disappointed in the man he now is.
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
In some ways, having them live next door is better. Certainly not easier, but better in the long run. It took a long time for me to see that (my ex and her H (OM) live a few blocks away). I think if they are farther, you don't have to deal with the fall out as much and that just prolongs the dealing.
Sorry to hear of the struggles, but then again - you're lucky for the trouble. It's making you better
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
It really does make you better or overall a stronger person.
The OW doesn't live next door now (her mom does). So H and her visit often which I know H is probably uncomfortable with but he doesn't have the backbone to tell her he doesn't want to go! His problem not mine.
Happy valentines all. S18 just came home with flowers and a card for me!!! I am so blessed I have such great kids.
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
What a nice son you have! My S18 said he would have bought me flowers and a card but he doesn't have any money or a job! Nice thought though!!! Happy V Day!!!
BD-Aug 2009 OW Confirmed H moves out Dec 2009 D filed by H-Mar 2010 H asks to come home April 2011 BD AGAIN 1-15-2014! H seeing FOW! H ran away again! 1-18-2014
