JDM, have you read DR yet? I think you're putting WAY too much pressure on your W, and when you pressure a WAS it almost always ends in S or D. She is confused and doesn't know what to do, so if you start issuing ultimatums then she's going to decide against you and then tell you it's your fault because you pushed her into it. STOP the pressure. In fact right now I think you should just stop everything until you can read DR. Your W needs time and space, give it to her.
