My W did tell me she does want to listen to what I have to say, My W told me she has always settled for second best, she blames this on her Father, because everything she did seemed it was never good enough for him, so she always settled for second. The question I have is My W is a talker and we use to just sit around and talk all the time. We still do it we did it last night and it was about the relationship, I did tell her that things can and could be better with time, she does seem open to it. I say this because she told me she doesnt have a problem listening to what I have to say.
Let me clear one thing up, I did some drinking and yes some days I drank and some days I didn't. I would some times drink 1 beer or 10, it just depended on what i was stressing about. I have stopped its been 4 weeks or so, and she has noticed this. I started changing about then.
Last Saaturday the W and I went out on a date and we had a great time. We even went to church. One thing I can tell you is when W and I use to go to church often our relationship always seemed better. Our busy schedules get in the way and we needed that as a priorty.
My W came into the room this morning and told me she was leaving for work and would talk to me later. I work afternoon shift and it has played a role in our R. Being on this shift is not going to help me DB because it limits my time being around her because I only see her on my days off which is 2 a week. My W has told me she has gotten use to me being gone and her S likes it when I'm gone. As I said before me and her sone have a strained R. I always attempt to talk to him and he's pretty reserved. My W has told me that is one thing she Hates that I did, she told me this last night. I want to fix this mess and I know making changes for myself is for me and it may or not win her back.
The thing that I Know about my W is she seems to still care, however she doesnt want to show me. I know she's scared of everything going back the way it was.
My question is what if my W wants to work on the M and I show her DB and DR, and she wants to do it is it ok to do this and would it be beneficial for the both of us to post on the site? Just a thought.
