melissa - gotta get back to me

[melissag]

The kids will pack this afternoon when they get home from school. H emailed me adding socks to the list because he doesn't have any at the "Dad Pad."

Maybe he is bringing PJs and underwear?

About the match photos, out of all the things your H has said or done, this gets me in the gut. (None of it's good but read around,they do seemingly crazy things)

I know I'm going way off the reservation here but I would tell him it hurts you that he put photos or your son that you took on his dating profile.

I'm the photo person in my family, I take them, I look at them over and over, I enjoy reminiscing about past times. It's MY Family's History.

H couldn't care less and I used to resent the fact that there were tons of photos of him and the kids and about 10 of me and the kids. He didn't get it cause the photos didn't mean to him what they meant to me. I can imagine him doing something very similar to your H, because there is no meaning attached to the photos other than they're photos. If the house was burning I'd want to save the photos, he would never think of that. He's not me.

Thank you for saying this, Bug. As you know, I doubt the things I think often now, because my H would often scoff at them or tell me I was being ridiculous or extreme. Many times, I would comment that if I died today, my kids, looking through photos, would wonder whether they ever had a Mom - I took so many photos of them and of them with H . . . so very few where I am in them. H never took the initiative to take photos, and it hurt my feelings.

But more so, the photos he used aren't just photos that I took. They are photos that I took to capture the family bond, and most of them were during special moments that we shared.

I don't think I can tell him to his face, because I will almost certainly cry. Though maybe he could stand to see that a little, because he seems to be wrapped up in his own little world and (based on his words and actions) doesn't seem to even notice how much he has hurt me.