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I am so sorry to hear your story. I can relate, my H told me he wanted a D on 1/6 and my heart dropped too. I did a lot of the wrong things at first - thought I was fighting for the marriage by pursuing but seems that it just pushed him away so now i've done a 180 and am detaching - GAL. I too asked him to stay, he knows I don't want the D but the papers are now going through. I signed because to delay would only make him mad and I have to let him go and hope he figures out the grass isn't greener. I think mine is in a MLC though. Read everything you can on here, it really helps. I haven't gotten responses to my posts yet but it does help just reading what others have gone through and the advice given and tips on what helps. If her mind is made up, you can't change it, you can't control it, she has to do that on her own. Give her space, focus on changing yourself and she will notice. Read the book again, I'm reading The Divorce Remedy and everything I can on mid life crisis. Every day is a new day, just take it one a time. You're not alone.