Gineen's right about the boundaries. Make a list of those, it's a little more proactive and affirming of you rather than reactive.

Think hard about negotiating directly with him. Is that really in your best interests right now?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss