I forgot to mention. They will throw a temper tantrum to this new behavior in you. This is the beginning of self respect. You will have to do this a few more times. Then they will respect you back. This is when YOU suddenly become attractive.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)