3b-Glad you had a fun weekend, but it is tough to put those feelings away. My H and I used to share glances when our kids did something cute or funny. I still enjoy these moments but miss sharing them with H.
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014
Thanks everyone. I was able to live in the moment over the weekend and enjoy every second with the kids. It is just the quiet times at night where my wind wonders.
We decided to adjust our schedule a bit this week because we are expecting a big snowstorm on Thursday. H came over tonight. I was feeling good about myself today at work and decided to make sure I looked extra good tonight. I noticed that my H could not take his eyes off me several times. Our interactions have been a bit awkward lately so it was better to play my little game to see if he noticed me and not walk on edge shells. Tonight was much better as a result. Guess this goes along with the Bob Barker experiment that has been discussed before. I think I will have to try it more often.
3, I often think up strategies to make being around H less awkward/sad. (Lord knows I will need one for tomorrow night at TKD - gulp.)
One time he was over for dinner and I learned something funny. We were planning which cars we were going to buy next just before BD and were trying to figure out how to get him a Tesla, which he has really been wanting. When he moved out, I was sure he was going to get one - and I bet he was, too, how cool would he be with the ladies in a Tesla? - but then I found out he couldn't get one because there is nowhere to plug it in at his swanky Dad Pad building.
That held up my PMA for a good three hours.
Here's a question for you . . . if he had taken his ogling one step further and wanted to ML, what would have happened?
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
Here's a question for you . . . if he had taken his ogling one step further and wanted to ML, what would have happened?
I made sure that it was not an option. As soon as the kids where in bed, I told H to have a good night and started walking him towards the door. My H is generally respectful so I knew that he would not push it.
My H is leaving on Friday for a business trip. OW will be there. If I think about it long enough, it crushes me knowing that they will be there together. Even if it is just business as he maintains, it is still something that OW gets to do with H that I will probably never get to do again. It hurts. But I am determined to not let him see that. I want to be confident. I want to leave a good picture in my H's mind about me. I made sure to look relaxed last night, yet confident and hot in a subtle way. The last time he went on a trip like this I was a basket case before. I am sure he ran to the airport to just get a way from me.
Yay for you 3! Confident/sexy. Nice combination. I am inspired by you today!
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014
me too! and gosh does it work. Sounds like this is really working, you are doing great! If only you could go out on one of the nights he is away to make yourself be distracted and have fun without the kiddies and if you so happen to post on FB a sexy pic of you around people he doesn't know he will be doing flips. lol good work 3B
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Never allow kindness be misinterpreted for weakness. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
I am really liking your posting....How did you feel to be confident, sexy, and hot? Then the follow up questions is how do you bring that into your day to day life?
I want to know how you plan on making that confident, sexy, and hot woman part of your rebuilt everyday person. Think about that for a bit.....How do you become the woman a man would send 1,000 ships to sea for?
Thinking of you today. I copied M's idea and posted cute hearts all over the kids bathroom mirror of all the things I love about them. Made me happy on this lonely valentines day
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014
Cute, Blues, I was just going to ask you girls what you have planned for the day!
I am thinking of buying myself some flowers and getting a massage this weekend.
Tonight I think I will go to yoga - maybe I will make some single friends.
This may sound depressing, but knowing that my H rarely did anything special for V-Day makes me feel a little bit better about him being gone. Wish we could all go out for drinks tonight!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
