Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[KGirl]

Wahh. What is going on?

So H and I were both in the same room watching our team's basketball game, and we make some small talk over an article we saw online about being born in 1986-1989 and reminiscing (I know, I know, we are babies!). After he reads that, he starts telling me about this morning's guest on the radio show he listens to. It was a guy who wrote some book about "how to get a guy" (not sure of the exact title), but H said it was really "interesting" and that he wanted to read it because it might be insightful. He goes on to tell me the following things:
-according to the show's guest,there are 3 types of women: the super girly/clingy ones (who men do not like), the very strong independent ones (that men also don't like), and the "ones in the middle." Through all this I'm just listening and validating, but he pauses here and is having trouble describing what the middle is. I say "They make guys feel needed but aren't needy?" and he said "YES! Exactly. Guys want to feel needed and important". He gave some example from the show about offering to carry someone's luggage and the woman said "no", and it hurt the guy's feelings to not feel needed.
-He then talked about how guys don't like nagging and said that the show said women should say something instead like "it really turns me on when you do the dishes". He repeated the not nagging twice, and in kind of a joking way... not an angry way. This was an issue for him and something I COMPLETELY stopped since BD. Even when he promises to do something and then doesn't..I just let it go/ignore it unless it's really important (and if it is, I just gently say "about that thing, did you get around to doing that yet? wasn't sure if you had time yet")

None of these things are surprises to me as I've been doing a TON of reading, and one of the books I read talks quite a bit about making your partner feel needed but not being "needy". Again, trying not to read into this or anything it means, but this is the first time since BD that he's voiced anything positive about relationships or things one could do to make them better. It SEEMS positive that he's been pondering these types of things.. and then actually vocalizing them. And I don't see how any of this could help him with his EA at work (if it was "how to get a woman" then I could see it!). Hmm....again, mark it as interesting! And some things I could work on? I think being as obvious as "it really turns me on when you shovel the snow" would be pursuit : ) but is it safe to say I've been given some hints?