Rebel without a clue

[prometheus]

18/12/2013

w: for the sake of the children, I am putting an end to this..either you move out or we will....

me: :-( that is horrible.

w: yes it is....but it's not healthy for any of us to keep living like this....

After digesting ^^^this text exchange that i got (at work), and having talked to the people in my office who have come to know what i am going through, i formed the view that it might be best if i move out. I don't want to move out but i can't see any other choice.

I wanted to come on here at the time and post about what i was doing/feeling/thinking but i did not have the energy to update everyone on my situation. So i didn't. I should have.

Even though it is done, i would still value input on my actions. What would you do? Here is what i did...
I sent a heartfelt text to my wife. I was scared and mostly resigned to my imagined fate. Here is the message:

Hi [wife],
I have been so selfish and I can see how hurt you are. I want to do my best to respect your wishes, so I have decided that the best way that I can begin to accommodate them is by agreeing to move out of our home. I will start to look for somewhere else to live.

One thing that I would ask though is that we can spend and share this christmas together.

To date i have received no *actual* response to that text. I asked if she had got the text and was told that she could not open it on her phone. I resent it to an email address, asked again about receipt and w told me that she had got it. No discussion though.

...January saw me take a holiday from work for a couple of weeks.

When i got back from ^^^this^^ holiday, one of the first things that w asked me was what timetable i had for moving out. Foolishly, i replied that i was not in a hurry. W said that i was "calling her bluff" and "playing her for a fool". I replied that i *had* been looking for another place to go, and had inspected three premises. They were all hovels. I told her this and added that i was not prepared to move into a hovel. That is the last discussion that we have had on the subject. That was around the 1st February, 2014.