I think there's a little bit of mommy's-way-is-the-only-right-way going on, and that's understandable, but it's not a good place for you to be, not now and definitely not for future relationships.
If by some chance, the kids don't have pj's and have a serious problem sleeping in their t-shirts, H probably lives near a store and will figure out on his own to buy them some pj's. Or not, and the kids won't let him live it down. Or not, and everyone survives anyway.
You're mad for good reason, but you're piling on other stuff that's not really a big deal. H needs to learn on his own what kind of a parent he's going to be to his kids, and he just may be an underwear-forgetting one who still loves them the way only their daddy can.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
