Moving Forward

[adinva]

So, H was not home when I got home at 7:30am on Sunday. I had to text him to find out where S16 was, since he wasn't home either, was on a sleepover. Just S13 asleep with the dogs. I don't plan to make an issue of it this time, but next time I leave H with the kids I will make sure that he plans on sleeping at the house, in case he didn't know that was a requirement.

He said he'd come by in the afternoon sometime.

Meanwhile, I had a few hours to visit with my out of town sister before her flight home, so I invited her and my other sister and my mom and dad for chili for lunch. Cleaned and cleaned and cleaned up the house. Then H got there....awkward. My dad doesn't really want to be around H, and I wouldn't have invited H, but he sat at the kitchen table and hung out. He got stuff all over the table I had just cleaned off for company, so I asked if he could please keep it neat since I'd just cleaned it, and he got defensive and said it's just my stuff right here that's all. He kept hanging around and then the doorbell rang, so I said, well, you wanna stay for lunch? So he did. I didn't know what else polite I could do. I warned my dad at the door, sorry, I didn't know H would be here...and he was ok with it. All through lunch, every single thing H said was a sarcastic joke. I did not like that. I felt sorry too, because he must feel awkward and ill at ease, and being a big funny guy is how he copes, but he had plenty of chance to leave, he didn't have to hang out with my family.

S16 didn't see my sister from out of town at all; we think he stayed away because his dad was over. S13 came down for a little bit.

I learned from S16 that when H arrived while I was out of town, H asked him again who threw the rock that gave him the concussion. S16 said he knew dad would just keep bugging him about it so he told him, and got the overreaction that was expected. Apparently H went to the house and talked to the mom and dad, and told them S16's friend was bullying S16 and said that he knew the kid was going to lie about it. This is at least the story that I got from S16. I haven't heard any more about it. S16 seemed both annoyed and resigned.

S13 gave S16 his Xbox so S16 could use his birthday present from his dad. S13 mostly uses his new gaming computer so he didn't mind and had felt bad for S16 getting something for his birthday that he couldn't use.

On the positive side, H is spoiling the dogs. He showed up with a big bag of dog treats and complained that they cost him $60. I have stopped buying dog treats because we're on the austerity plan (I still treat them, but with a handful of their normal dogfood). I texted H later that the dogs were enjoying the treats and thanks for buying them, and he said ur welcome.

I'm feeling good. Working out a lot to get my emotions out, really helps a lot, I feel healthy and productive. I'm busy with cleanup from the meeting but have a networking meeting set up and plan to apply for some jobs by this weekend and activate my network on LinkedIn. I'm still doing a good job at my job; I'm very happy with the path I ended up choosing. I feel like a winner whether they want me or not.