She left - My Story, First Post

[25yearsmlc]

This is golden advice 25yearsmlc has given you. I wish I implemented this sooner in my situation. It sounds simple but the work is hard. Took me several months before really understood it.

This is a learning process and the lessons are tough. That last one is great!

40. Don’t worry about how the past is viewed. What matters is “Now & from this day forward.” Learn to let go of the past. Let go of what you cannot control, which is a lot. It’s so freeing.

thanks for the kind words Mariner. Just want to mention that the words "from this day forward" are in many wedding vows.

I now see that as pretty brilliant and way more significant than I realized before.

If we live it, it really truly helps. I also accept that my h and I will Not see our past the same. I fretted over that for a long time. Probably b/c of my focus on "fairness" and what I perceived as having self respect.

I struggled for a long time with this. Finally I realized what mattered is agreeing on our future together. And letting go...