Mama, you don't need a lawyer to file for D. You can file on your own, and the filing fee is not very much $$. If you are worried that your H is pissing away marital money, you should consider filing to protect your kids and yourself.
I had a similar issue - I needed to file to stop my H from giving up a martial asset, so I filed for a legal S (since I don't want to get D - I figured I will let him file for D if he wants to). That might be an option for you to look into as well. It wasn't easy and I still wish I didn't have to do it, but I didn't really have a choice.
Have you talked at all with your H about the $$? Perhaps he has some (non-sinister) plan you don't know about. Don't avoid talking to him out of fear. (This is one I am still learning myself, but it's so true.)
And make sure you are GALing for YOU.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
