Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[KGirl]

I was reading OneDay's thread about "taking back" the bed... and think I may have screwed up here. But I feel like it's too late to do anything about it. So when this all first went down two months ago I immediately started moving clothes and everyday stuff to the guest bedroom, because I was so hurt/angry/upset with my H and didn't want to have to interact with him in the morning when getting ready. I tried to reclaim the master bed about a month ago, but it went horribly. I asked my H about rotating, he did it for one night and complained that all of my clothes were still in the other room and we woke up at different times so I was disturbing him, how would we rotate and move ALL of the clothes back and forth, I left the room a mess when I left it (well, I don't have a hamper or dresser so what would you expect?) etc. He blew up. I decided it wasn't a battle I wanted to fight when things were calm prior to, so I said "Let's just go back to how it was, it's really not worth fighting about." But, I DID say that I was going to shower in the master shower from now on, so I did "reclaim" that part. Am I being too unassertive? I kinda feel like it's too late to do anything about the bed/bedroom when it's been going on for so long. And bringing it up just opens the door for questions/conversations about why we're both still here, what's going on, etc. Not sure that I want to go down that road unless H does it first. Maybe just pay attention moving forward and make sure I'm not conceding any more space in my home? H comes home and monopolizes the "good" tv from when he gets home until he goes to sleep, so I'll try to figure out how I can negotiate that instead of just conceding.