I have been DB since mid Dec 13 and I had slipped a couple of times since then by being needy. Each time I tried to ask for forgiveness and she ended up crying. So far I have gone two weeks of being detached and she is communicating a little more. I am more involved with the kids and am always there when needed, without being pushy.
I was thinking about Valentines day tomorrow and I thought I could allow her some alone time while I take care of the kids completely. I got her candles and bubble bath and was going to ask her to just relax by herself (I don't expect her to do anything for me). Is this breaking the rules of detachment? I just want her to relax without trying to be mushy about V day.
I know flowers to her work may be a bit too much (specially since she is reserved and a bit shy). So I am being very strong resisting the urge to do romantic things tomorrow.
Thoughts?
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
