It is tough but try not mind read what WAW is thinking or feeling. I was really bad at this when the S first started.
You hit the nail on the head here. I went home for lunch. Asked her about last night and if everything was okay (out of legitimate concern for our son). She went through the event in detail. I asked her if he was "okay" and if stuff going on with her & I was affecting him? Of course she said no. Not a complete 180 from our conversation last night but at least a 90. I dropped it, wasn't pushing the issue even though it certainly is having SOME impact on him.
DR should be here tomorrow and I plan on reading it over the weekend. It may discuss this but is it normal for the WAS to act like everything is fine (or even great) during the early part of the separation? I really let that attitude have an impact on me during the first two weeks of the S but since I've been here and read the first chapter of DR and the 180 (the term "W.A.S." was foreign to me before Monday), I've realized that I can't let that attitude bother me because it's probably only half way true (if even that much true).
And I'm sure after she called me upset, she got settled in after the kids were in bed that she started texting/talking to friends (enablers). Because that's what she has done since BD (even when I was in the house). And then her mind seems to get switched from where she was when I left the house (which is typically pleasant towards me).
Crazy that someone can go from hot/cold so quick.
Me: 33 W: 27 S: 5 D: 2 Bomb: 1/2/14 First Separation: 1/25/14 MC: 2/7/14 (one time only) Moved Back in: 3/31/14 W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14 Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
