She left - My Story, First Post

[paul19510]

She also told me she was happy I was working on myself, but it is too late. This was early on and must have felt like salt in the wounds.

I heard from others that she knows I have been changing, but doesn't think it will last. This makes me think she assumes I am trying to bribe her back into the R.

One of the most hurtful remarks was that she sees herself as someone I can contact when/if I get married again to ask for R advice.

From what I've come to understand here, that sentiment is "normal". Sustained changes take time to believe in. If you choose to try and stay M to her, you will need to understand that demonstrating a "new you" could take a while. I'm not even going to try and say what "a while" is. I don't know.