Ok - I thought I would start a new thread with a more positive vibe - in the great words of the poetess Emily Dickinson (a muse of mine).....
KML - that was a very good question that you have just posted. I never thought about it that way - challenging - I would need to think about that carefully/ All I can say as a first port of call is that I didn't do anything consciously - ie I didn't obviously choose him to go through this pain. It was also not a case of me ignoring his past - rather - believing his words that it would never happen to ME.
