As far as rule #1, my kids solidified this concept for me last night.

I was explaining to my oldest that when he whines and cries about things he wants or does not like that it makes people not want to give him what he wants.

All of the sudden a light bulb went off and bang it was easy to understand rule #1 for me.

M:34 XW:34
Together: 10y
Living: 9y
Married: 7y
Son:6 Son:4
Separated: 12/28/13
Piecing: 5/2/14
Separated 2nd: 10/16/14
W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14
papers served: 1/27/15
D final: 3/6/15