I guess what I am saying is that my pain , whilst not unique is doubly felt because of our discussions about this very issue - and his emphatic promise to never put me through it...
My H and I were friends since we were kids. He was my best friend when my dad left my mom for his secretary. This was a line I never, ever, ever thought my H would cross because he saw the pain and consequences it caused me. I never thought he would consider doing something so similar to me or our children. But, he did. And, I'm not sure he sees it as the same as what my dad did. God help him when/if it ever sinks in--the pain he caused us.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
