Thanks for your invaluable support guys - I cant tell you how much this means... Firstly - how do I start a new thread - just copy and paste this thread's browser address and think of a new name???? Lois - I am not usually THIS hard on myself - I must say. I think this is in reaction to my shock and the level of betrayal. I am trying to work through this betrayal - this is on the heels of betrayal by my ex-H when I was married. This was 5-6 years ago - a long time ago and I have sorted through most of the immediate grief about it BUT it has shaped the way that I view infidelity and what my boundaries are moving forward. I came to this conclusion pretty fast after my ex-H left to be with his secretary. So - I explained to WAP just what this issue meant to em and the reasons why - when we first met. He was clear form the very beginning where I stood with this... I always said to him that IF he was feeling as if he was going to cheat that he end it with me first - I couldn't take the deceit and betrayal. I am not sure whether this actually happened or not but he certainly ended things.....and OW has appeared... I guess what I am saying is that my pain , whilst not unique is doubly felt because of our discussions about this very issue - and his emphatic promise to never put me through it... mmmm x
