OneDay, I had a similar conversation with my W just this past weekend. We had been taking turns staying at the house for the kids sake (and as I came to realize- to make things easier for W). Several members of this forum gave me the courage to speak up for what I wanted and stood for.
I asked W if she had a minute to talk. Told her that I had agreed to our living arrangements in the beginning because I felt that it gave both of us the time/space we needed, however I had recently decided that moving back to the house 7 days a week was what I wanted and what I felt was best for the kids. I wasn't forcing her to stay or move out- that was her decision. She was of course upset and tried to turn it back around on me, but I kept calm.
I would take a similar approach- it's up to her whether she sleeps in the bed or not, but that you've decided that that is what you want to do. My W was very upset at first (and still is), but I felt very comfortable with my decision and actually feel less stressed. Good luck!
