melissa - gotta get back to me

[paul19510]

BTW M, great post. Whether or not you see it, I see you growing and you are doing really well. Do something to make you feel good. Like the gym, then get a massage or your nails done or something like that, you know. Feel good about Melissa. Seems like there's plenty to feel good about. We have to forget about the negative influences coming from our situation.

My wise friend mentioned that concept yesterday on the phone. During most of my M I took a "one down" position and W let me know it. I finding out now that she's gone, that she let others know it too...My self esteem got hammered in the process (My fault for letting that happen, but I will learn) My friend said, "...you're a good man and you'll be a fine partner to someone when you heal from all of this...don't let one person's negative opinion of you change that...."

I'd say the same to you, except for the part about being a good man...pretty sure you're a woman But you get my point.

Have a great day. You have a whole weekend to completely spoil yourself. I haven't gotten any time for myself yet. My W doesn't take the kids much at all (at least not all at once) Have twice as much fun as you think you can stand Notice the lots of smiles.... Just keep doing that.