It is tough but try not mind read what WAW is thinking or feeling. I was really bad at this when the S first started.
I thought hey this my W I have been with her for 15 years. I know what she is thinking.
I couldn't have been more wrong and it drove me crazy the more I tried to read her mind.
I wish I could help you as far your kids go but I have no Children(my fault).
Just keep their best interest in mind. They come first before even yourself, I believe.
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014