Its snowing again today. We have a Nor'easter bearing down on us today. I hope our trip to Niagara Falls will be a go. Snow is supposed to stop by late tonight. this winter has been harder than many in the past 15 years. Despite that fact, we are doing well here at home.
I was able to burn off some energy shoveling and there will be more of that today for sure. I feel calm today. I am going to just take this "new version of Life" one day at a time. I have been "checking the time" for too often. Today is good. There's no reason to think that tomorrow will not be good.
After a small flurry of contacts from W the other night about whether or not I wanted her to send a suitcase for the kids to use for our trip (she took a couple of them when she left) there has been no contact. That feels nice for today.
I had previously offered help when the weather was poor. I found that W did not want that and I also found that she had already met her needs by asking others to do things she needed (things I normally would have). So, there's no need to fall into that behavior anymore. I doesn't feel good for me to get turned down and I should not do what I was doing because I only hurt myself. If W wanted a Relationship with me, she'd say so. I can take her actions to be her voice about that. I need to keep walking on my current path. Continue to concentrate and being a good many and a great father.
have a warm, safe day!
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14