Done is when I don't care if he contacts me at all...right now, I still want him to reach out Done is when I do not want to reach out to him Done is when I no longer think of him everyday Done is when I am no longer so ANGRY at what he did Done is when I am no longer hurt by the things he did Done is when I can truly think of him as "someone I used to know"
Bright actually describes me in her post as well - I am fine when he does not contact, or at least I am moving my life along. But when he appears out of the blue (and for me, it really is out of the blue, it is so long between contacts) but when he does contact, I can't help but think, maybe.... Done is when I don't think maybe, done is when I think "whatever".
What Bright says makes sense to me, too. That first we detach and learn to live life without them. But the second stage is the stage where nothing they do affects our feelings at all. Appears neither of us are quite there yet.
Bea and Job, thank you both for sharing your experiences. I admire you both for who you are and what you have accomplished and sincerely thank you for your input. I WAS waiting for that magic done moment. But I guess time is the answer. I am tired of this cloud that seems to hang over me. It is not as dark as it was, expecially in the beginning, but it is still there.
Done is when there is no hope of reconnecting. Done seems like a great place to be because despite everything, I still have that hope. Very, very little, but it is still there. I don't want to have it anymore but I cannot seem to quash it.
Job, I am doing well these days, if a little stressed - life is just busy. But otherwise, I am bumping along. Thank you for asking.
