Hello Grey, Nice to meet you. I just read your thread. It's a relief to find someone else on the board in the same relationship stage. New to Piecing... sometimes I say pre-piecing. I don't know why... but anyway, I am trying to navigate the post-affair, return home (we separated 9 months) process now too.
I relate to every single one of your thoughts and anxieties. And I think you are doing a bang up job! I wanted to mention, since you said your H just cannot talk or communicate feelings... my W told me it was really hard, even still, since she's been home 4 months, to hear me speak about my pain or even sometimes see me happy because it reminds her of how much she hurt me. He might feel the same way.
We need to be oh so patient with them, and that is soooo hard to do! Because then we are left to our own thoughts, fears and developing expectations. I am a pro at that!
Are you dealing with any post-affair grief from him over the OW? I am. (My W's affair was over 2 yrs) I'm asking because I wonder how other people deal with it, or symptoms they notice... and there aren't a lot of our friends here in the same phase of healing as we are...
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
