"Confront them with annihilation, and they will then survive; plunge them into a deadly situation, and they will then live. When people fall into danger, they are then able to strive for victory."
When you embrace failure as one of two possible outcomes to a situation...and UNDERSTAND that in all situations there is a 50/50 chance of success vs failure.....Then there will never be fear of failing. Failing is part of life....fear is only a limiting control of life that we put on ourselves. Knowing the difference is what makes mice of men and men of mice.
I heard a story once about Carnegie. He had a huge mansion (burned down) up near where I grew up on a lake. One day he went to throw a fisherman off his beach (his usual response to trespassers), but didn't. Instead he watched the fisherman fish all day and not pull a fish out, while he himself dealt with all the hectic things of his life. He then went to the fisherman later and asked him why he fished all day when the fish weren't biting...The fisherman responded " I have spent the day enjoying the sun, the wind, the sound of the water, and the peace of mind, so today was a good day of fishing". The story goes on that these two men became great friends who spent a lot of time together when Carnegie was in town and that shortly afterwords Carnegie began his philanthropy ways. See success is not about getting the golden fleece, it is about the path taken to get there.
You will be a great father and an inspiration to him. You will both screw up....more than once LOL. That is life....so live it one day at a time. Be the dad we all know you are and all other things will fall into place.
Remember parenting doesn't come with an instruction manual...You are learning as much as they are....and that is what makes it so enjoyable
Once we become adults, we no longer need mom or the Church to lay on the guilt. We are ingrained with our own little recordings that play in our heads...
That record doesn't really need to be playing though. When you shut it off, its easier to see what is real and what has been imbedded in us. And its easier to deal with.
Make sure you know where those feelings are coming from my friend.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Actions not Words. Let them Go and succeed or fail on their own. And live with those consequences. And make no mistake they are watching us very carefully. Hell I am still watching my 88 year old father die. How he lived his life and what can I do differently or the same.
Saw that you posted so wanted to drop in and see....
How is the baby?
How is fatherhood treating you?
I hope all is well with you and the fam!
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
