separated 8 weeks still on the journey

[bluesgal]

Paul-I truly agree with Labug. Take some time and reread the recent posts.

As I was reading 25ymlc, I was in awe at the insight and advice. She really took time to give you the golden nuggets of advice that likely took her years to figure out and learn. I learn every day by following what these practiced DBer's have done. The further I go along on this path, the more I see the wisdom they have to offer.

I can empathize with you, Paul, because I was you. But not for 8 weeks, but for months. I was fighting the changes I needed to make. I was trying to manipulate the sitch-not in a bad way, but I just wanted to shake my H and make him see things my way.

Letting go is not only hard, but scary. It is the right thing to do. You are a good man with a good heart. You are doing the work.

I agree with so many things 25ymlc wrote. I see so much pursuit in your posts. I see you having expectations. I see these things because I can relate and I want you to avoid the mistakes I made. Use your advice as a cheat sheet. They say we can't speed this situation up, but we can sure slow it down. Don't slow it down like I did.