Don't mention anything about the OM. Keep the emphasis on your D. That's something the two of you share. Ask her what your D is doing and every now and then maybe pull up a shared memory of just the three of you. Something that you share with her and has no reference to the OM.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Do you think I should still communicate with after telling me our marriage is over for now? She planned on starting fresh with OM.
MrBond didn't mean to communicate with her about the M. Communicate with her within the boundaries of Sandi2's 37 Rules. Keep all talk light and fluffy. Some call it the "friendly neighbor" approach, talk to your W like you would a neighbor you're on friendly terms with.
Originally Posted By: Lost!
I guess I push her to make that decision.
Whatever you push her to do will not go your way, so don't do it unless you're ready for D. And you are way too early in your sitch to know if you're ready for D.
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She said she's not in a rush to file but not willing to work on our marriage.
Great, she gave you the gift of time. Now what do you plan on doing with it?
I'm willing and ready to do what it take to get my family back together. I'm not used to all this and a little confused. Knowing my wife will be hanging out with OM for valentine breaks my heart. I'm also arranging to go to Disney land with my daughter next month. I bought the airline ticket this afternoon and looking on PL for some deals on hotel. I know I messed up at the beginning. I made the entire conversation about OM instead of focusing on our own issues. To be honest, any man will be upset knowing his wife is screwing another man multiple times a week. I'm over all that now. I clearly get it that I can't stop her high. I'm not on F to the B, but I'll look for a way to link up. Thanks man, pls don't give up on me.
I planned on getting myself back up. Strong, vibrant and healthy. I stopped the drinking. I also need take care of some personal stuff. I need to be back to work. I need the income to support my daughter and I. I'm also back to the gym and it felt good. I'm reading more and and planning to make some changes that may help me in the long run. This Coming Friday will be difficult for me, My family will be laying my sister to rest. She was not there for me. That hurt me because the only message I got from her was "sorry about your sister" I think she on cloud nine with OM and don't care about anyone.
I think this marriage is over fellows. She sent my sister a email pretty much saying it's over during the time of grief in my family. Who does that. What kind of heartless human being does that. My sister will be laid to rest in few hours and this crazy woman is harding more pain to what my family is going through by announcing that our marriage is over because she can't close her legs for a 25yrs old boy. I'm pissed and upset right now. This's nothing but evil and wickedness.
I need to vent. I'm upset and can't control my anger. This woman used me and pretty much try to hurt my family in our time of grief. This's beyond being evil.
She's really pushing my button now. No normal human being does this. I believe in respect for the dead. You don't hurt a man you used sending more pain to his family in the time of need. That is just wrong. I think am done.
