Don't stop posting. Why? Because it's a long process?
That's putting it all on him. This isn't just HIS journey, it's yours. And, the faster you move through the grief and pain yourself, chances improve for your situation.
If you become, embrace, celebrate and grieve what you have lost, you will be able to feel joy and like your life again. When you like your life, you become more attractive, especially to someone in so much pain.
Think about it, by you NOT taking action by exploring your feelings and so forth, you allow the situation to remain stagnant. Even if he never comes on board, YOU will a good life waiting for you at the end of all this. Maybe, even before!
My H is still deep, deep in the tunnel and may never return. And, you know what? Because of the work I've done, mainly on these boards, I'm ok!! In fact, I was just posting on my thread how I'm bored.
Two years ago, a year ago, even three months ago...I didn't want to go and do ANYTHING. It hurt too much. But, I've looked at myself and I'm liking, more and more, what I see.
Don't let him or anyone stop you from being your fabulous self. And, the first step is to get really honest with what things you need to improve in yourself.
You can do this. :-)
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
