Don't tell your wife you are going to MC, don't ask her for input and don't debrief her. You've been married long enough to know what the issues are and to know what you need to work on. Telling her you're going to MC is imposing an R discussion on her and then while you're there she'll know you're talking about her and assume you're making her out to be the bad guy and will resent you.

Tell her nothing is best and go when she doesn't notice you're gone or if you have to tell her you have an appointment and leave it at that. If she presses tell her she asked for space and you are going to take space too and this is part of it.

Acc

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015