I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

Nit, I've been very torn about just coming back and giving her the option of doing whatever she chooses.

In my case, she has no job and doesn't have the best relationship with her mom and her siblings are not local. To her defense, she doesn't have many places to go. In hindsight, I should have never agreed to separate but our constant fighting had to stop as it was only driving us apart. For now, that has seemed like it has subsided. But it sort of backfired on me because she says she's now happier than she's been since we met. But it's only been 2 1/2 weeks since I left. How can you REALLY know how you feel about anything in just 2 1/2 weeks?

I'm giving A LOT of my trust in time as well as using the 180, and detaching myself from her. Time will tell what she REALLY wants to do.

I read about WAW's and that many of them have built a safety net before they even drop the bomb. My wife did not do that at all. The idea of getting her own place has really only come up since we've been separated. She literally has NO money to get a place by herself. If she wanted this for a while, she would have found a way to do that.