Is there hope after divorce?

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I'm in a similar situation - do you have an update?
My divorce is in motion. He knows I don't want it. I had an affair years ago and he saved it all up in a box too and now after having years of a great marriage (I thought) he drops the bomb on 1/6/14.
I think he's moving out in a few weeks. We are not fighting at all, we still sleep together and all that that implies. There's no I love you's but I know he loves me and he knows I love him. I'm praying for reconciliation and reading all these posts and trying to detach. Like Karen says - you can't really do anything - they control their own actions. Only you control your own. Definitely read these boards for tips, I'm finding a lot of information. I too asked my H to read the book and he won't. His mind is made up. I'm just hoping after he moves out he'll see that the grass isn't greener. Let us know how you're doing. I'm reading that I need to GAL and detach which is what i'm attempting. I'm staying calm and we're not talking about the relationship at all. Any decisions made have to be his choice, I can't force him to reconcile so i'm not. Let us know what's working and what's not - these posts are really helpful to other readers going through something similar.