She's currently looking for a job. I've told her "if that's what you feel like you need to do to be happy, then I support you in that." Which is the actual truth. I thought she should have gone back to work a long time ago and have voiced that opinion in the past. But now I've made it HER choice.
But it may be hard for her to get a job that she wants. She has some college and has decent job experience but nothing that would really stand out in a job that has a lot of interest. And she wouldn't settle for a waitressing job or something like that. She may be rudely awakened to the fact that the independence that she says she most desperately craves does come with a price. That's her journey, not mine.
If she does get the job she wants and she does go out on her own, then that's it. She is on her own. I will no longer subsidize her. I'm friends with an attorney and I consulted him about this. He said THAT is when it's time to look at a formal separation agreement. Now would be premature because according to him (he knows my wife as well), he's seen this situation loads of times and has said only 25% does someone in her situation actually take the step to get their own place. There would have to be something like safety issues, infidelity, or something pretty major to force that. He said if she was that desperate, she'd already be gone by now.
Me: 33 W: 27 S: 5 D: 2 Bomb: 1/2/14 First Separation: 1/25/14 MC: 2/7/14 (one time only) Moved Back in: 3/31/14 W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14 Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
