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Hi val how are you? I hope 2014 brings you joy. Thank you for all that you have given me. Much love to you


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Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home
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Thanks Ladies!

I'm doing well. Feeling really good about where life is taking me in 2014.

The healing process is going ALOT better since I have no communication with X. Sometimes I wanna smack myself on the head for how long it took for me to detach from my sitch.

Struggling to find my footing in the dating world. A crush on a friend has brought on interesting challenges.. especially the closer we get. Trying to protect my heart but not live in fear.

It's a balancing act. Sometimes I think about how much easier it was.. when I was only focused on trying to make it through the day not crying... haha!

Oh life.. it sure is fun!


M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.
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It's been awhile since I've updated... so here we go.

I'm transitioning in my work. By the beginning of April - I should officially be part of the Director's Guild of America. It's a long process requiring me to submit paperwork to prove that I have been on movies and TV sets as an Assistant Director for over 400 days. It has to be approved by two committees and I have to be voted in. Thus far one committee has voted yes so hopefully the 2nd will as well.

This is an exciting/scary transition. It's a huge accomplishment in my career and means more pay, bigger shows and health insurance (yay!) I literally do a little dance each time I make it through a step.

The scary part is that it will require me to work union jobs ONLY. I have been building up my union contacts the past year... In a way, it's like starting over with my network. It's definitely a test of faith that my actions and abilities are enough.

The memories have been flooding in. This April will be three years since my separation. 3 years ago - I barely had the contacts to work enough to pay my bills. 3 years ago - I barely had the attitude to make people want to hire me.

There are 100s of moments in my life that is leading me up to this change in my career but the BD is probably one of the biggest.

The daily grind of life often makes it difficult for me to see how far I've come or how much I've changed. Frustration builds up and my want to change and grow makes me impatient.

The BD opened the doors for me to be a better person. The pain created an opportunity for me to change.....

... and today - I am so thankful I took it.


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D'ed: 8/12

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Val,

What a freakin' awesome post! You rock! grin You'll be a shoo-in at the Guild with your talents. Of course, it's gonna happen. You got this, girl!

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Val I am so happy to read your post !!! I wish you all the best. I know you will be a success and your growth...? Your wisdom...? That's the real prize. :-)


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Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home
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What great progress you've made with your career! Sending you love and light. I'm positive the 2nd committee will agree with the first!

You sound strong and in a good personal space. I'm smiling. smile


Me(F):40 WAW:44
T:13yrs M:9yrs
BD:2/12 (I saw a text)
ILYBINILWY: 5/12
PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11)
S:2/13
Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13
W moves home to R: 10/13
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yay! a million "likes"


Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Wow 3 years, I remember reading your posts when I first came here and was so surprised when I saw your age.

Congratulations!

Not all gifts look like gifts when we first receive them. I'm so happy for you.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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I am glad you posted that. I have a better understanding of what you are trying to further achieve now.


You’ve traveled a long way on your journey and managed to improve yourself while learning from the path.


Be proud of yourself and what you’ve achieved.


No time to rest on laurels, time to appreciate certainly! There are more paths to tread on life’s journey.


Change/life is like that, recognize need, plan, gather resources, execute, plateau, evaluate, recognize need….rinse and repeat. Steps on the path, sometime baby steps.


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D 30
S 27

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Val,

Congrats - like in everything else in the past 3 years, all your hard work in your professional life is and will continue paying off.

We need to celebrate in person soon...

(whatever happened to line-dancing??? I am still up for it!)


Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D






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