Speaking about forgiveness, here is an interesting quote. Something to think about.
“Love manifests towards those whom we like as love; towards those whom we have problems with as forgiveness” – Inayat Khan

Portia, I’m like you, surprised how long it takes to heal. I thought I would be done by now. I find it easier to stay in no contact these days. When I think I’m doing good and moving on, H contacts me and the whole process is interrupted. This is how I feel at the moment. I almost wish that he would leave me alone, so I could complete the process. And then I get scarred that he will not contact me again.

I think for you (and me) there is another round of detaching, if you can call it this. The first was when they leave and you get used to the void in your life. Then they appear in your life again, with touch and go, and you have a hope that they might be coming out of it and realizing they made a mistake. When this happens you go through another round of a different kind of detaching. At least this is how I see it. So, eventually you are done with this as well, at least I hope I will be.


M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state