work is good; H is crazy

[ericmsant2]

Any thoughts??

Well since you asked

1) I think I understand where you are in the process. Allow me to explain. IMO, you are at the "let me speak to him as an adult and hopefully he will respond as an adult" OR "I am talking to someone rational" phase. I went through this for a while..a long while actually.

IMO, stop expecting him to be rational and resonable. Period.

You are not going to talk sense into him.

Quick story....so I was talking to one of my very good board friends...explain how my XW - was totally unreasonable. My comment to him was.....

"I'm a trying to have a reasonable conversation with someone who is unreasonable".

His response to me .... "say that again"..

So I said it again, his response was the same - "say it again". This went on for a few minutes. The point was this....

I was trying to have a reasonable conversation with someone who is unreasonable.

So stop it. He ain't gonna change - at least not yet and not until HE feels he needs to.

ACCEPT that right now he is not in his right mind. Nothing you say to him is going to snap him out of it.

H: I'm not denying you access you can always go to the bank.

If you take the emotion of out of your interactions with H, you will see that he has a point. YOU could have just gone to the bank and explained that you need online access. Stop expecting him to be reasonable, SHOW him that YOU DO NOT need his arse.

but, I'm entitled to access and would like the login info please

"entitled" - IMO, I would try not to use this word. Why? Because both of you have different views on "entitled". He probably feels "entitled" to things that you would not agree with.


Keep the responses to him very short and too the point. If you do not need to speak to him - don't.

Continue to respond to him, keeps YOU stuck. Keeps you from moving forward. Fustrates YOU.

So what other reason beside the kids would you need to text or speak to him for. Oh..btw, I get the saving legal fee money rational. Sometimes though ya have no choice. You really cannot reason with crazy.

So...what are you gonna do the next time he texts you?

Peace,
Eric