It sounds like I made the right decision. Writing out #2 and #3 felt good, but in my heart I knew that the kids and my time together is the most important.
This situation was the first time I felt real anger about what the S can do to the family. I feel like I am giving her all of the support of a M and good H even after the S. I did not see it as wanting to punish her until I read your response.
Basically my raw emotions were "You are f@$%ing with my job so you can get sleep and work on your things. If you had not left this would not have been a problem!"
I knew deep down what the correct answer was.
I know carry a bag with the DR book, 37 rules, my notes, and kindle with other self help books in it so I can turn to it when I need to.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15