Well, the slug just came to my office to confront me about yesterday...imagine that. He did not like being "called out" in front of the boss. At one point it became a yelling match and I told him to get out of my office. Finally, after we both cooled down he put forward some options that I could have done rather than pointing out what he wasn't doing. I said that I did the best I could with what I had but would indeed in future consider what he had said. I said that I had indeed spoken to him previously about it and told him I would discuss it with the supervisor. He said "I thought you were kidding cuz who would actually do that?" Huh? I said that I had brought it up with he and the supervisor in private and not around others which I thought was respectful. I told him I was actually stunned with his reaction, thinking he would volunteer to take something off my plate but all I got was "f@ck you!" So, I certainly will consider what on how to approach such issues in the future...he did have some valid points. He said "was getting that extra hour really worth all this?" Yup, ruffle his feathers and he's in your face...which is why they pander to him. So, the day continues.
At one point he actually said "Finally, I thought I had a week with nothing extra on my plate and you do this to me" I said angrily "I work here, I know what you do so shut the f@ck up and get out of my office!"
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
This just keeps on getting better and better! Today the slug brings in a bag of clothing because apparently one of the supervisors is going to do some sewing for him. I almost gagged on my coffee lol.
I went to church yesterday and one of the ladies from my divorce group sat with me (not the one I previously mentioned). I haven't seen her since early December. We hugged and chatted before the service and afterwards she was in tears. Apparently, things are not going that well for her. Near the end of the group in December her hubby, who had recently walked out on her, was talking about reconciling. She told me he says he loves her but doesn't do any of the things that they talked about...I said "He probably does love you but just can't do what you need him to do" After the service she had tears streaming down her cheeks. I gave her a hug and asked her if she would like to chat more. She said she was going to talk to one of the Pastor's (they'd invited people to come up and talk after the service if they needed prayer or support). I told her that next week I'd be in the same seat and if she'd like to join me that would be great and if she'd like an ear to listen I'd find time. I've been divorced now for two years and separated for five before that. It hit me to see someone going through that same pain that I went through not that long ago. I felt sad. But, anyway, if she needs an ear then I'll listen and if she just wants a friend to sit with, I'm happy to have company. If not, that's cool. I don't think married people realize how hard it is sometimes to come to church and sit alone and watch all the families sitting together. But, it is what it is.
I think that's our legacy, isn't it? Like you guys, I have people come to me for advice. In fact, a couple people have come to both Mr. Wonderful and myself to ask for our help in getting them a D just like ours. The first time seemed a little strange, but we both share with each other when people say that to us and laugh.
You have a lot to give, and you just might be the person for that job. Good for you in offering the gift of you to someone who needs it.
Proud of ya, Wii. Are you going to introduce her to turtle?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
The first time seemed a little strange, but we both share with each other when people say that to us and laugh.