I don't know if you thought that was how long we were apart? My H was gone for 7 months. I was talking about H and OW were broken up about 3 weeks before we reconciled.
I did think 3 weeks was how long you were apart. Which is too fast, imo. But 7 months COULD be enough if tools and personal growth were the focus while apart.
Often the only thing the LBS wants (or believes they want) is a reconciliation. IT's such a bummer to see a couple "try" to reconcile but to do it in a way that is so Unlikely to succeed long term.
There are a few couples out here where an A has happened, and the LBS thinks that "if only" the WAS came home, all would be well.
Then they come to find out that their anger (the lbs's) prevents or hinders a real reconciliation The anger of the LBS can be so great that they are blinded by rage and the desire to punish and "WIN", (which happens more than we care to know).
Even when they don't know ahead of time, the desire to be declared "right", or the mistaken belief that by "making the WAS learn his lesson', the LBS is safer in taking the wayward spouse back if they punish and make the wayward spouse suffer some more...
ends up being like he's (the LBS) who holds the affair over the head of the WAS and months and even years down the road, they'll throw the affair in the face of the wayward spouse, holding it over their head for a LONG time.
That type of "recon" ends badly. Do you see what I mean?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
