3, I often think up strategies to make being around H less awkward/sad. (Lord knows I will need one for tomorrow night at TKD - gulp.)
One time he was over for dinner and I learned something funny. We were planning which cars we were going to buy next just before BD and were trying to figure out how to get him a Tesla, which he has really been wanting. When he moved out, I was sure he was going to get one - and I bet he was, too, how cool would he be with the ladies in a Tesla? - but then I found out he couldn't get one because there is nowhere to plug it in at his swanky Dad Pad building.
That held up my PMA for a good three hours.
Here's a question for you . . . if he had taken his ogling one step further and wanted to ML, what would have happened?
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14