Sad times

[MamaB]

I found out today that in addition to 13,000 my H took out of our account in November, he also took 7,000 in December. He just got a bonus of 6.9 thousand. He put all of this money into a separate account which I have no access to. He paid 11,500 on one of his credit cards, using this money. I have been completely trusting with my H, I never thought he would take money from.

I need to pay to retain my lawyer out of our joint checking which is the account we pay all bills from, and which my H check gets deposited to. My choice is to pay retainer leaving little money for bills and hope that my H will surplus account with some of the money he took, or not to retain the lawyer. I feel trapped and soo disappointed in my H. He really could have handled this in a much more respectful way. I have not told him that I know of the additional 7,000 he transferred out and I'm not sure what to do.