This woman is a little sick. Can you believe she's still sending me text about the car. She's now using my daughter to try and get this car from me. I politely told her the car was bought out of love and not for her and OM to enjoy. I told her my daughter is okay with the 2009 car she got right now. I've stopped being her ATM machine lol. Bank M.D is also close for now lol. I'm glad I can get some laughter out of all this today.
How long do you think I should wait before filling?
No one here can answer this question. Only YOU.
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I'm willing to be patient, but I'll hate for her to file before I do.
Why? Do you feel the need to one up her? Did your L say it made sense for YOU to file first?
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She advice me of my rights as a father.
And what are those? Do those rights align with what YOU want and what is best for YOUR daughter?
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She asked for more documentation of our finances, custody, the evidence I've of the affair and some other stuff that will benefit me if this ever goes to settlement.
Remember a few things…1) your L works for YOU. Your L should take directions from YOU but provide you with how YOUR instructions will or will not comply with the law and YOUR goals. 2) L’s get paid either way this goes. So just remember that. Your L will want finances for a few reasons, first is to see what the settlement might be, second is to see how much in assets that have to work with. Be careful. Use your L sparingly - otherwise you will find yourself having to pay large legal fees.
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I told her she made the choice to step out of our marriage and fixing her will no longer be my problem.
There is a saying around here…. STFU. I hope you know what this means. Learn to keep your comments and daggers that you want to throw her way to yourself. No need to rub her face in it and TELLING her she is NO longer YOUR problem. You are very angry but need to find a better way to express that anger. Direct it at something else NOT her. Oh…and since you told her SHE is NOT YOUR PROBLEM….do not be surprised if SHE contacts and OWN attny and MAKE her issues YOUR problem. Get what I mean? STFU. Keep your conversation with her about YOUR daughter. You are trying to scare her into coming back to you. It will not work.
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I politely told her the car was bought out of love and not for her and OM to enjoy.
Once again…stop it! You are acting out because you are hurt. I understand it but it is NOT doing you any good. How do you know OM enjoys the car?
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I've stopped being her ATM machine lol. Bank M.D is also close for now lol.
I understand how you feel. Notice though…that most of your post are about MONEY. I understand - you probably do not want to have to pay her for her affair. My question to you though is this…….
Is money and not paying her what you are working towards or are you working towards trying to get her back. Cause if it is the later - you are doing a piss poor job.
I am not saying NOT to protect yourself. I am saying to learn to STFU with her. I am saying to stop projecting your anger at HER. Go join a gym..work out. Take the anger and use it propel you to be a better person. Do not take the anger and use it as a weapon towards her.
So what did you L explain about your custody sitch? Will you be able to see your D on a frequent basis?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I'm going for joint custody at the end. I'm upset but trying to keep my cool. It's not easy doing that but I'll continue to a better person. I don't think I should finance her affair. I already went through too much to be doing that. My lawyer need all account information, stocks, credit card and asset. This's not about money for me. I clearly still love this woman, but disgusted knowing she's sleeping with another man multiple times a week. I don't own her but it's just wrong. No lie here, the affair bother me. Who wants to share a woman with another man. We're married, this is not a open relationship. Healing and disappointment take time. I had a good day today but she just put salt in my water by calling this guy her man when I called to check on my sick daughter. My daughter is doing okay but no need to tell me your man is coming soon. I did not ask for all that information but just checking on my daughter.
Some folks do connect via social media. You can find me that way..
Since I cannot post my email directly....I'll give you some good hints.
You can search on the largest social media web site. The name of the social media site starts with the letter "F" and ends with "K".
You can search by email address I believe....
So...add to my tag name (i.e. ericmsant2@)...think the largest email service provider. Starts with the letter G.
Okay?
You will know it is me, if you see me in an orange shirt. You can feel free to send me a friend request.
Moderators - not sure if I am breaking any rules. If I am, i am sorry.
Peace, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
It eats you up from the inside-out Sometimes you just need to run away To escape from the pain and fear To regain your faith and hope
Sometimes you just have to plug in Let the sound soothe your soul Fill your body with calming pulsations and just forget the world for a while
Breathe Lost!.....As Eric said...we have all said...STFU!!!
One thing have working completely in your favor...Is that she lives 1,000 miles away. You can control all communication, yet you keep throwing anger filled barbs at her. This needs to stop. We explained how to do it....Go back and read.
Stop focusing on the OM and your wife...There is nothing you can do about it...Zero...Zilch...So stop thinking about it. Very unhealthy behavior for you.
What do you control Lost!? Tell yourself over and over again....What is the only thing you control?
About the car...Yes I can believe it. She is in affair lala land AND...yes capitalized AND she is used to you spoiling her with what she wants. That is your part in her current behavior. Something you did before that is an issue you have, but will not accept.
When are you going to pull your big boy pants up so you can start working on yourself? Yeah...I hear you....It is all her. I just disagree A LOT....So when are we going to start working and stop pouting?
I'm working on myself daily. I spoke to a lawyer today and planning to start going back to gym. I also plan to look for support group closer to my home. I'm also Planning to travel soon. I need to clear my head. I need the view of the water and sun. I stopped the drinking and eating better.
Planning is what happens while life rolls by...Just saying
Have you thought about a pro-marriage counselor? Obviously it wouldn't be marriage counseling, but you might find it worth while. I also thought you were going to call a DB coach?
