Won't stop affair. Want divorce now.

[ericmsant2]

How long do you think I should wait before filling?

No one here can answer this question. Only YOU.

I'm willing to be patient, but I'll hate for her to file before I do.

Why? Do you feel the need to one up her? Did your L say it made sense for YOU to file first?

She advice me of my rights as a father.

And what are those? Do those rights align with what YOU want and what is best for YOUR daughter?

She asked for more documentation of our finances, custody, the evidence I've of the affair and some other stuff that will benefit me if this ever goes to settlement.

Remember a few things…1) your L works for YOU. Your L should take directions from YOU but provide you with how YOUR instructions will or will not comply with the law and YOUR goals. 2) L’s get paid either way this goes. So just remember that. Your L will want finances for a few reasons, first is to see what the settlement might be, second is to see how much in assets that have to work with. Be careful. Use your L sparingly - otherwise you will find yourself having to pay large legal fees.

I told her she made the choice to step out of our marriage and fixing her will no longer be my problem.

There is a saying around here…. STFU. I hope you know what this means. Learn to keep your comments and daggers that you want to throw her way to yourself. No need to rub her face in it and TELLING her she is NO longer YOUR problem. You are very angry but need to find a better way to express that anger. Direct it at something else NOT her. Oh…and since you told her SHE is NOT YOUR PROBLEM….do not be surprised if SHE contacts and OWN attny and MAKE her issues YOUR problem. Get what I mean? STFU. Keep your conversation with her about YOUR daughter. You are trying to scare her into coming back to you. It will not work.

I politely told her the car was bought out of love and not for her and OM to enjoy.

Once again…stop it! You are acting out because you are hurt. I understand it but it is NOT doing you any good. How do you know OM enjoys the car?

I've stopped being her ATM machine lol. Bank M.D is also close for now lol.

I understand how you feel. Notice though…that most of your post are about MONEY. I understand - you probably do not want to have to pay her for her affair. My question to you though is this…….

Is money and not paying her what you are working towards or are you working towards trying to get her back. Cause if it is the later - you are doing a piss poor job.

I am not saying NOT to protect yourself. I am saying to learn to STFU with her. I am saying to stop projecting your anger at HER. Go join a gym..work out. Take the anger and use it propel you to be a better person. Do not take the anger and use it as a weapon towards her.

So what did you L explain about your custody sitch? Will you be able to see your D on a frequent basis?