Wonka,

How would a letter validating her feelings go against Sandi's Rules?

Would the letter be pursuing?

She is a WAS so is it better to not validate that she hurts?

I may be mixing advice from the multiple books I have read.

M:34 XW:34
Together: 10y
Living: 9y
Married: 7y
Son:6 Son:4
Separated: 12/28/13
Piecing: 5/2/14
Separated 2nd: 10/16/14
W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14
papers served: 1/27/15
D final: 3/6/15