separated 8 weeks still on the journey

[paul19510]

25 thanks for the thoughtful and thorough look into my thread. I appreciate what you've said. I certainly seem to have a long way to go. I too am a pilot.

There are far too many points in your post to try and answer. I will say that I am Gal and go to thr gym each morning before work. I also take a class st fhe Y. 2 dsys and have made new friends there. I am working ln my IFR rating and I am very active with 3 ice hockey teams my kids are on. I have made new friends thru this activity.

I am a very hands on dad and also the main wage earner in my family. My job requires travel. My W is completely emersed in equestrian sports. Although I've asked for restraint she has spent more thsn we can currently afford. I beleive and partnership. We didn't have that snd I stayed here for thr usual bsd list of reasons. I found this site in 2012 and ordered the books. I had previously asked jody if it was ok to say I knew her and I didn't seem to be s problem, but perhaps I was wrong. I didn't say where I know Jody from only thst she was a life cosch that asked me to look at life through my W s eyes and that I found this to be very helful to opening my eyes to work I wish to do.

At my last session Jody and I spoke about letting my W know that I had spoken with a L and that I wanted to say I didn't know where this would lead us. She didn't disagee that this could be said. I agree looking back that patience may have been a better route to go.

I could lkkely have done much of what you listed better....but I didn't. It is what it is now. Yes, backing away will be helpful in many ways.

I continue go add new things to my routine each day. I'm not certain that I've evef shied away from doing things because I was too busy....

The hockey activities alone tske 5 or 6 nights a week. I start my day at 5 and don't normally stop until 10 or 11 each day. My kids are my focus. I wanted to enjoy time also with W. She didn't feel the same. We got married after a brief courtshipj and an early pregnancy and then had 3 kids in just under 4 years. Life moved fast and we didn't nuture our marriage. Now its dead.

I've spent 2 of the past 7 years in IC and continue to journal and look inward. Do i do it perfectly....no. am I really early in this according to others timelines ..yes. I do seem to have provided enough information to have caused quite a response from you and will continue to look inward to understand myself snd actions better.

Patience is the key. Time will tell. Thank you again for your thorough critique.
of my situation.

I beleive you might have been able to say what you needed to with far less words. I do try to accomplish what I can. My marital crisis although not listed here has been unfolding for nearly 10 years. I have read many differnt works on marriage and finally found this site which I am grateful for. I didn't think that we needed to compare the length of issues.

As for the title of my thread...I am sorry that you find it funny. I don't find my situstion funny at all. Its hurtful. You mentioned that you are a word smith so I am sure thst you chose the wording of you post in a thoughtful manner..i am not certsin how poking fun at my choice is helpful. You sounded angry...
I have read other posts from you and they do not sound angry.

Being here is lousy enough without being fun of. I apprrciate you words but so me of them apear to be mean spirited.