Thank you, FY. Joe has been quiet since I asked him to communicate directly with the L. We'll see what happens...

I thought I should post this update. I went for a quick lunch time trip to the grocery store, and I was reading the ingredients of a new granola bar, someone approached me. At first I didn't recognized her bc she had gained a lot of wait, but then it hit me. It was the OW. She said she wanted to apologize for what she had done and that I did not deserve it. She said Joe had tried to avoid her but she had insisted and insisted until he gave in. I told her this really helped me forgive, and it does. She said she'll never get involved w a married man again and that she was sorry. That now she learned her lesson. Go figure. I thought, wow. Here is one of those unresolved issues/ghosts of the past that I can now put to rest :-)

Blessings to all.