Don't know if im on the edge anymore or not....

[dingo]

I have had a few days to consider some of the things that have happened over the past couple of weeks and wanted to elaborate on my story.

In my last post, I mentioned some positive advances and significant comments my wife has made recently. I was originally going to write about a bunch of them but the only one really worth mentioning is that she is seeing a counselor that she really likes. This counselor has challenged her expectations of marriage (love vs in-love type stuff)and identified some co-dependency issues. My wife has always been a people-pleaser.

During our discussions over the last few days, she has expressed a desire to fix herself so that we can fix our marriage - her words. She would like to get together a few times a week for dinner, hikes, other activities, etc - some of which include friends and family. We have been speaking lightly for a few minutes almost every day for about a week now.

With respect to the OM - she claims she has been working on getting him out of her life since the new year. She has returned all of his stuff/gifts and even let me know the specific time he would be stopping by her place to pick them up.

Just writing this stuff out actually stresses me out - I want to be hopeful but know I have been down this road before, only to be disappointed. It does feel different - but I know I have said that before too.